Optional Ceremonies


Unity Sand Ceremony:

(This is an alternate ceremony for the Unity Candle)

____________and ___________today you join your separate lives together. The separate bottles of sand symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate set of friends. They represent all that you are and all that you’ll ever be as an individual. They also represent your lives before today. As these separate containers of sand are poured together, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.

Bride and groom start pouring together.
They stop half way and allow children to pour their vials in.
After they are finished, Grandchildren pour their vials in.
Bride and Groom finish pouring the remaining sand in container.

Hand Ceremony:
(using a droplet of essential oils on each palm.)

Please face each other and hold hands.
As Shakespeare said: “Now join your hands, and with your hands your heart”

These are the hands, strong and vibrant with love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other all the days of your life.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

The hands that will on countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into your eyes that are filled completely with your overwhelming love and desire for you.

The hands that will massage tension from your neck and back in the evenings, after you are both had a long hard day.

The hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.

They are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick or console you when you are grieving.

Dear God, bless the hands that you see before you this day. May they always be held by one another. Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment. Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their love.

Help these hands to continue building a relationship founded in your grace, rich in caring, and devoted to reaching for your perfection. May ____________ and ____________ see their four hands as healer, protector, shelter, and guide. Amen.

Rose Ceremony:

(There are 3 different versions to choose from.)

RC1 Your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings, which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows, of your love and respect, and a public showing of your commitment to each other.

You now have what remains the most honorable title, which may exist between a man and a woman. The title of “Husband and Wife” For your first gift as husband and wife, it will be a single rose.

In the past, the rose was considered a symbol of love and a single rose always meant only one thing—it meant the words “I love you”…

RC2 This is a day steeped in tradition, a trime when we are surrounded by symbols of; something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue. Today, ________________and________________ will begin a new tradition, a custom which now becomes uniquely their own.

Groom______________ I give you this rose. Because it grew from a tiny seed, becoming stronger and larger until it burst into a flower, it symbolizes the way my love for you has grown. Groom gives the bride the rose. Each year on our wedding anniversary, I will give you another rose. In doing so, I’ll remember this day and renew the vows we have made.

Bride_________________ I give to you this vase of water. Bride gives to groom and holds it. Because water is the one element that without it we would perish, it symbolizes the importance of your love in my life.

RC3 In the elegant language of flowers, red roses are a symbol of love, and the giving of a single red rose is a clear and unmistakable way of saying the words “ I love you” For this reason it is fitting that the first gift you exchange as husband and wife be the gift of a single red rose…

Unity Candles:

________________ and _____________________, the two separate candles symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of friends. I ask that each of you take
one of the lit candles and together you light the center candle.
The individual candles represent your lives before you this day. Lighting the center candle represents that your two lives are now joined to one light, and represents the joining together of your two
families and two sets of friends to one.

Memorial Mention: (generally said after the invocation)

At this time we would like to remember those who have passed (names or nicknames).
Although they are not physically with us we know they are here in spirit and in our hearts and they too are sharing this time of good fortune with us. For the grace with which we embrace life is always, a measure of what has gone before.

Officiant will ring the bell for 15 seconds for a moment of silence or a song can be played at this time/or The couple can light a candle or place a single rose near the loved one’s picture.

Breaking of the Glass--Jewish Wedding Tradition as well as many others enjoy bringing this custom into their ceremony.
The breaking of the Jewish wedding glass is placed at the end of the wedding ceremony when the groom stomps on a glass to crush it and the guests shout, “Mazel Tov” or applaud
There are various interpretations: (these are just a few of the most popular explanations)
Temple: Breaking of the Jewish wedding glass is a reminder of the destruction of the Temples in Jerusalem.
Fragile: The glass symbolizes the love and relationship of the couple is fragile, so it must be cared for and not broken
Irrevocable: The breaking of the glass symbolizes the irrevocability of broken glass. The glass shatters into many pieces the action cannot be taken back. Just as the vows you have spoken to each other today cannot be taken back. It’s irrevocable and permanent.
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